Brené certainly provides insights for those audiences who need guidance on shaming. This book is indeed that resource for those who are seeking hard examples of how to embrace themselves.
The focus of her research, presentations, and writing has indeed the identification of patterns defined as living a “wholehearted” life. Wholehearted people according to her research will certainly dig deep — however in a little different way. They focus on being deliberate, inspired, and ongoing.
Brené is indeed a master storyteller by communicating the concepts, ideas, and her research process.
Certainly the most related segment of the book is within ‘The Gun-for-Hire Shame Storm’ lesson. In addition, I find this to be a common scenario, an organization identifies a gap and chooses to bring in outside consultants.
Certainly, one cannot help but feel for her story which begins by a PTO president who did not stay on focus, but rather introduced a bold statement:
You might not like what you’re going to hear tonight, but we need to listen for the sake of our children. Dr. Brown is here to transform our school and our lives! She’s going to set us straight whether we like it or not!
pg .46
Learning lessons
Wow, what an introduction before you even walk to the podium. Certainly the impact of shame in this event is insightful. In addition, she admits to not taking charge in that moment, and allowed those statements to linger throughout her address. There are certainly lessons from Oprah’s book What Happened to You?
In addition, I found this to be a very good lesson of how to overcome an outcome described as “I didn’t get a head nod or a slight grin or anything. I just managed to freak out the other 250 already-pissy parents. It was a disaster.” As a result, her ‘shame winds’ are an honest admission of missing an opportunity. Certainly she is conveying how she learned from this event.
Ten Guideposts for Wholehearted Living:
#1: Cultivating Authenticity – Letting Go of What People Think
#2: Cultivating Self-Compassion — Letting Go of Perfectionism
#3: Cultivating a Resilient Spirit – Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness
#4: Cultivating Gratitude and Joy: Letting Go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark
#5: Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith – Letting Go of the Need for Certainty
#6: Cultivating Creativity – Letting Go of Comparison
#7: Cultivating Play and Rest – Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth.
#8: Cultivating Calm and Stillness – Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle
#9: Cultivating Meaningful Work – Letting Go Self-Doubt and “Supposed To”
#10: Cultivating Laughter, Songs, and Dance – Letting Go of Being Cool and “Always in Control”
Be the solution
Brené’s research in addition, brings these ten common factors into focus for readers to embrace. Wholehearted people according to her research will certainly dig deep a little different as they focus on being deliberate, inspired, and going. Brown is indeed a master storyteller by communicating the concepts, ideas, and her research process.
Here’s what I learned: The heart of compassion is really acceptance. The better we are at accepting ourselves and others, the more compassionate we become. Well, it’s difficult to accept people when they are hurting us or taking advantage of us or walking all over us. This research has taught me that if we really want to practice compassion, we have to start by setting boundaries and holding people accountable for their behavior.
pg. 69
In conclusion, this book is indeed providing a much needed resource for her audiences. Her stories are certainly empowering. Therefore, one can find inspiration in her research.
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